Build a life. Don't live one, build one.
Are you just living your life? Or are you building it?
3 INSIDER SECRETS by Ashton (Chris) Kutcher:
1. Opportunity looks a lot like hard work.What do you think about luck? Is there even such a thing? When I hear someone say, "oh, I was just very lucky" I always think that they're just being very modest. Even if luck appears to have a hand in someone's fortune, what did that person do in order to get there? Every time you leave your house and something positive happens to you, instead of brushing it off as pure luck, give yourself some credit for leaving the house in the first place. By the same token, if you are hesitant to get involved or to put yourself out there, those "lucky" moments that seem to happen to all of your friends, are a lot less likely to happen to you. I'm really working on this one, but damn, it can be a challenge.
2. The sexiest thing in the entire world - is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap.
Yessss! Many people express how they just swoon over teachers, profs, scientists etc. that otherwise they wouldn't have blinked an eye over. Can you relate? I certainly can, as I have pined over too many professors over the years to count! When I discovered this definition for sapiosexual, I definitely felt like I had found an identifier. I am sapiosexual.
sapiosexual: (adj) A form of sexual orientation characterized by a strong attraction to intelligence in others, often regardless of gender and/or conventional attractiveness.
3. Everything around us that we call life was made up by people around us that are no smarter than you. You can build your own thing and your own life that other people can live in.
This final piece of Kutcher wisdom takes me back to my link to the article about the typical work week (click here). Who says we need to work 40 hours a week? Who says a bigger house is better? Where did societal norms come from? According to Kutcher, someone no smarter than you decided upon them. So, if we don't agree with something, why not change it? If you didn't catch Russell Brand's interview on BBC's Newsnight, I'd recommend you click here! Unfortunately, I think people carry on with their life, despite seriously questioning any of it. How often do you take time out of your day to ask yourself, not necessarily about what it is you do with your time, but about why it is you do it? What motivates you to continue living? What are you passionate about? Have you become complacent with all aspects of your life, just because it seems to be working out?